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Monday, 14 December 2009

  • Growing up the "fat-kid"

    Ever since i started school, i was always the big kid. The chubby, tall fat one.
    I was always teased about being fat and i didn't have many friends because of it. If fact, i am sooo lucky that i have always been confident and i never payed attention to these bullies, But alot of children don't deal with it. Alot of children are teased about their weight and it really gets to them and they live with that for the rest of their lives.

    I was bought up without a father, raised just by my mother who was away alot of the time on business. My caregiver looked after me 3 nights a week. I am not sure how much this participated in how i dealt with my childhood but none of it has affected me today. My mum says that i used to come home crying because my "Best friend" called me fat. The next day i was her friend again... I was a naive child.
    (Funny thing is though, I saw her a few months ago and while i have shot up and am no longer "the fat-kid" she has beefed right out.)

    I was bought up in a small town called Warkworth, which is about 45minutes north of Auckland, New Zealand. My school was full of clique-ey netballers and snobby rich-kids. I tried to fit in with the "cool-kids" and because i was very musical and theatrical at school, i did for a while. They eventually thought they were far too cool for me and picked on me. I haven't seen any of them since i left that town nearly 6 years ago.

    My eight year-old brother, has a friend who reminds me alot of myself when i was that age. She has the same type of body shape as i did, yet she is not nearly as confident. She gets really hurt by this and she is thoroughly affected by this bullying! I have tried to speak to her about it, Letting her know that everything will get better and to not let it affect her but i know it is SO hard for her to take on my advice and i don't think she really sees me as someone that should be listened to! I know ALOT more children out there are getting bullied weither at primary, or highschool. I know that it is NOT ok, and not many people come out without atleast some emotional battlescars, as i did.

    "All little girls should be told they're pretty, even if they aren't" Marilyn Monroe

    Repeatedly tell your children, and other peoples children that they are pretty/handsome. It will help boost their self-esteem alot and maybe will lessen the blow from the comments.

    Stay positive, Everyone!
    Jordanne-Eizabeth


Monday, 07 December 2009

  • Opposite Gendered best-friends

    Today i am talking about opposite gendered best-friends, specifically STRAIGHT opposite gendered best friends.

    I know alot of people that think that a girl and a boy can't possibly be JUST best-friends. Alot of jealousy is caused by this, The other person in the couple thinks that a guy and a chick cannot possibly be bestfriends and not love each other in an entirely sexual way. Therefore, the other person MUST be having an affair...
    Sure..., Some best friends turn out to love each other and decide that they are made for each other and get together. Or one half of the best-friend duo, falls for the other. Sure this happens!! But that is not nessisarily the case ALL THE TIME!

    I have had my best friend (who is a boy) for the best part of 3 years now. We have always been close and i trust him with everything! This does not mean that me and him are going to start loving each other and get married and have a gazzilion little babies... Me and my best friend have always been just friends, We haven't even kissed let alone do anything else.

    Thankfully, MOST of my past boyfriends have trusted me enough not to accuse me of doing anything with my best-friend. But there was this one boyfriend who was untrusting and untrustworthy in every aspect of our relationship, and he had a problem with me having this best-friend (which was actually quite funny concidering his best-friend was a girl and he ended up loving her *without her loving him back, may i add*)
    I never had a problem with her BEFORE HE CHEATED, (not with her, with another girl. Rephrase that 3 other girls *I was young and stupid*) She was nice and friendly and i trusted them. After he cheated i was a little suspicious but nothing major.

    But this can be a breaking subject for some couples... Maybe the other half has a right to be suspicious. Genuine opposite gendered BEST-friends are hard to come by... BUT they do exist.

    Do you have an opposite gendered best-friend? Do you have a partner that does?, and if so, do you trust them? How did you cope with the jealousy and what not?

    Thankyou!!
    Jordanne-Elizabeth

Sunday, 12 July 2009

  • Dating someone 10years older then you?

    This is a tricky question, Because although i realise that it is OK to date someone 10 years older then you i want to know how young you have to be before it stops being creepy... Because obviously it is NOT OK for a 12year old to date a 22year old and so on! But would it be ok for someone 16 to date someone 26? Or how much difference is the maximum for a 16year old to date? 20? 25?

    This has been quite a big topic in my little group of friends and some think that 24 is the maximum for a 16 year old.Others think only 18 is the maximum!
    What do you think? Is it OK to date someone 10 years your senior if your 16? What about 5 years older?

    Thanks :)
    Jordanne-Elizabeth

Thursday, 09 July 2009

  • Stigma against piercings?

    Piercings are getting more and more popular and the growing trend is GOING TO TAKE OVER THE WORLD. Well maybe not to those extremes... but as piercings get more popular and our general knowledge is growing, it is alot easier to get a piercing, and being able to maintain it. And the social stigma on piercings are not AS negative as it was, maybe 50 years ago.

    I find it odd that even though alot of native tribes and cultures had piercings to symbolise various things, people still have a negitive view on the piercing of skin when it is very obviously part of alot of cultures and alot of humans heritage. Like in India, As a celebration of a boys 13th birthday (When he becoms a man) He has one of his ears pierced. And in places like Africa, The woman used to put giant gauges in thier lips because they thought of it as beauty. Where has all the love and respect for heritage gone? Why do people respect certain parts of peoples heritage but not another just because it was different or part of a different culture?

    My grandma for instance is VERY persistant that people (Mostly YOUNG WOMAN) should not pierce or mark their skin in any way as it is ALWAYS BEYOND A DOUBT TACKY! Well I strongly dissagree with this generalisation that all females should act like ladys and be very proper and should take very high pride in themselves, even when it comes to personal prefrence of piercings or tattoos.  I personally love piercings tattoos and even though i do not have many myself i still do not find it tacky or un-ladilike. But i suppose that was the generations views back then and we do not have to be conformists!

    My grandma almost blew her nut when she saw my tattoo of a butterfly and swirly things inbetween my shoulder-blades that is atleast 11cms long. "Well now don't get any more!" was her response, She already thinks that my mother looks tacky because of a few tastefully placed tattoos and a tounge piercing.

    So how can we stop this constant negitive view on body art and how can we change the stigma that is attacted to accessorising with these peices of metal to something more positive? I think that time has changed and i think we should embrace the body modifications that people may wish to perform. And i think that we shouldn't have to be worried about wearing our new addition of body art in front of people in the fear that they may not approve!

    Screw them all! I think that in reference to piercings, That if you like it then wear it proudly! And if you care about the tattoo that you choose and you can wear it well, Then cover yourself in them! Tattoos and piercings are a form of BODY ART and should be treated as such, in the means of careful consideration in the placement and design/jewelry and then wearing them proudly!!

    Yours Truely,

    Jordanne-Elizabeth

Tuesday, 30 June 2009

  • Anything and Everything (First real post)

    Hello everyone!,

    If you happen to read my blog (very first one ever) THEN THANK YOU! I appreciate you even just stopping by.

    I have a feeling that i will do my blogs on important things like.... Piercings, Tattoos and anything else that happens to tickle my fancy!

    Once again! If you have any ideas about what things interest YOU, Then please leave me a message telling what it is!

    As of right now, I do not have many piercings so right now i cannot tell you alot, I only have my navel done (My lobes are healed up now) BUT i have a tattoo also! I shall post picks and you can give me feed back,

    Anyway, Thanks for hopefully stopping by to have a look! :) Hope to see you all soon.

JordanneElizabeth

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